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  1. Katie,

    We must be about the same age! I love technology and I love getting the latest gadgets but I think they pressure me into moving, doing, being more, faster, better. Somewhere along the way I lost control of a good personal pace and your piece gives me permission to find it againl. Thank you!

    B Well,

    P.S. I can’t to read your novel!

  2. Jeanine

    Hello Katie,
    I grew up just before the technology explosion and love all that it has to offer. I do battle on a regular basis to leave my cell phone at home, not check my Facebook so often, and not check my email as if I will miss something soooooo important if I do not. Lately, the times that I do leave my cell phone behind or check the computer, I do not miss a thing. Kind of like the news! I am trying to slow down too amidst all of the fast paced life that I live in Southern California. If I am checking all of the technology, I am finding, I am missing out on far greater things! Like my kids growing up! Thank you for your 102nd post! You always inspire me.

  3. Like Beth, I think I was part of your generation. I was very much into technology until I started working from home again. I live in a very rural area with no cell service. I pulled the plug on our TV years ago and never missed it. I stopped thinking about the news since it’s like a soap opera – it’s the same story every time I turn it on. It certainly helps to not be around “connected” people on a regular basis. Now, when I’m around them, I have to roll my eyes at how important the technology makes others feel.

    Being more mindful throughout my day of what I’m focusing on has helped me to slow down, be present for my 3 small children and my husband and live life on my sense of timing – as you are doing. It’s a much more sane and happy way to live.

    Thank you for giving others the permission that many think they need to unplug, slow down and follow their own beat.

  4. I’ve never come across that C.S. Lewis quote before, so thank you for sharing it. I can definitely relate to it. I often worry that we’re not heading in the right direction, that we’re too obsessed with technology and the pursuit of bigger, better, more. All in the name of ‘progress’.

    Thank you for reminding me that not everyone partakes in this obsession. That not everyone wants to rush, to consume, to be connected all the time. That it’s ok to disconnect and find our own pace.

  5. Hi Katie,

    I’m not a novel writer at all myself, but think this is a fascinating observation of the challenges that you face. As technology changes at a faster and faster pace every year, many writers must feel as if they are writing what not too long ago would have been futuristic stories. And for readers of the younger generations, novels based in the era we grew up in may well be considered ‘historic’.
    Living it can be enough of a challenge, never mind trying to write about it!!

    I love that you have been able to calm down amidst it all. I have found this year that I have tried to do so many things – many of which would not be possibe if it weren’t for this computer age we’re living in – but am now missing so many of the simple pleasures in life that previously made me incredibly happy.

    Thanks so much for the reminder – to take things at a much slower pace, to find a pace that works for me! It’s what I intend to do as this year winds up and 2012 begins. Hopefully before too long I’ll be able to answer your question, “Where do you live?” For now, I’m still working it out!

  6. First, I can’t wait to read your novel. Okay, I’m waiting, patiently, but excitedly.

    I remember rotary phones. I remember life before microwaves, digital clocks, computers, and cordless phones.

    I resist giving my kids too much technology, so this is how I live between both worlds. I resist getting the internet on my phone.

    I hear your resolute grit in this post. And, I long to reside somewhere between remembering and resisting…

  7. I hear you Katie. Sometimes I feel the weight of the fast paced world around us too. I am learning that it is up to me to break free of whatever it is that pulls me under. I embrace simply slowing down-this is where my home is. When I feel caught up in all that is the world today, I am learning to stop and breathe, slow my pace and turn off the world around me. When I do this, I return home.

    I remember an Alanis Morissette music video many years ago where she is walking down a very busy street with cars and people rushing by, and she seems to be walking against the tide at a very slow pace-in her own peaceful, open road. I think of that quite often as I slow my pace. If only more people would take time to breathe and unplug.

    Thanks once again for sharing Katie dear, love the quotes.

  8. Katie,

    This so hits home for me. To the core. I grew up in Montana on a ranch. We played outside for our entertainment.

    The frenzied blogger, trainer, life coach… also happened to me. And then I sold everything as you know and moved to Hawaii. And now I am soooo on your page. I have found my home. And I have found the beauty of time and experience and going at things with intention. No fear, no rushing, no gotta, gotta, gotta, gotta. It’s a beautiful thing.

    Mahalo for writing such realness for people to see, read, explore, be.

  9. Katie, I’ve just written something along these lines and it seems were in the same boat as all the commentors are or have been. I just started blogging 6+ mos ago and have been reading so much on the subject including how I MUST be involved in S media etc etc. That I have to embrace the new ways.
    Ugh! It all seems so time cosuming and pointless. But I allowed myself to follow others until my inner voice was screaming at me.

    I’ve reigned myself in and once again, reminded myself that I know whats good for me. No f book, no nightly news (thats been the case for months and months) no ‘You must get a better phone and text’, and on it goes. Denying embracing the future? Maybe, but I doubt it makes my life any better. Just a different way to market my wares. Good to know I’m not alone in longing for the familiar ways of my youth.

    Thank you

  10. Katie,
    Why do I feel after reading your posts that I must be nuts for doing all of this!
    I think my fantasy of spending 4 months in Greece on a remote island stems from wanting to cut myself off from all of this….to live in one world again – the real world not the “virtual” one. I’m glad you’re taking your time and finding your way with it though. You emit waves of “calm” vibes that are calming to me. Thank you – I needed that.

  11. Katie ~ I so look forward to your posts in my inbox, but this one moved me to the core. I am living right where you describe – caught between a hurried world and an internal longing to just slow down and take a breath. I sometimes ponder when it was that we all got so busy that we forgot to simply live this one beautiful life we’ve been given. Day by day, I’m trying to find my way back!

    I cannot wait to read the new book! My best to you always ~ Steph

  12. Katie,

    I am so moved by your words and your courage. I am moving into the world of spirit, leaving behind the city of fast-paced, crazed, stress. I love traveling this path with you.

  13. I feel that rushed pace, too, and am at odds with the new technologies even as I embrace them to allow myself more freedom of location for my own work.

    Lately, I have been returning again and again to a quote by Leo Babauta: “Identify the essential and eliminate the rest.”

    It works with my stuff, my clutter. My social media tools. Which books & bloggers to read. What hobbies/activities I truly love and which ones I can leave behind. Which friendships to invest in and which to let go of.

    It works with everything in my life that is becoming cluttered, crazy and chaotic.

    Thank you for this affirmation and reminder that those of us craving a slower, simpler life are not alone.

  14. I live in my present moment, built up by my values, tested through my experiences, and strengthened through my failures, and made lighter by love

  15. Yes! I LOVE how you are consciously creating your own boundaries within your world – your home. So often I feel like I am at the mercy of technology – constantly answering emails – just trying to stay afloat and “caught up.” However, when I emerge from the chaos I remember that there is never a time when we catch up, and I get to choose how to live. So thank you for this beautiful reminder. Thank you for this inspiration. ?

  16. Jane Datuk Sibidol

    Hi Katie,

    All is not lost. We have people like you to inspire. There are many out there still finding their way home. Continue to inspire. Regards.


  17. Beth, I’m 48. Personal pace is a wonderful rhythm to discover. I hope you find yours again.

  18. Great point, Jeanine. When we’re so focused on our technology up-keep, we step out of alignment with our personal up-keep and let what’s most important to us become a non-priority. Kids 1st, cell phone 50th.

  19. Hi Paige, you’ve done some pretty great things for yourself and your family – by making the connections you have with them the one’s that matter most. Great example to your kids. I wish more people weren’t afraid to unplug. It’s becoming a disease – this fear of missing something or not reacting instantly to some tweet or email or ping. The more I slow down, the more I like it.

  20. Rebecca, it is ok to disconnect, to go slow. I worry too when I see my neighbourhood being transformed at a rapid pace into towers of concrete – progress isn’t pretty that’s for sure.

  21. Brigid, I hear you. Blogging, computers — all of it can be great, but it’s not sustainable at the pace we’re “supposed” to keep at it if we want to also live a vital, healthy and simple life. At least it’s not for me. I look forward to seeing where you end up in the new year.

  22. Marci, I’m glad you resist giving them all of it. I can’t believe it when I hear of kids in grade school with cell phones, and in high school it’s now Blackberries and iphones. I would have been a mess if I had to deal with that kind of connectedness (and disconnectedness) at that age. My daughter wishes she’d been born in my time instead. Less stress. Less communication issues with friends. Says a lot.

  23. Michelle, yes! Home is in those quiet moments, those moments of presence — they are there for all of us to take if we choose to. You’re right, it’s up to us to break free.

  24. Jt, I love the sound of your home.

  25. Catherine, there will always be people, groups, trends that tell you the “right” way to do things, the musts, the shoulds, the you’re-crazy-if-you-donts. This is new territory so everyone’s fueling it with new ideas and not much thought has gone into those ideas – not much thought about the human being behind the blog. There is another way to build a blog, build a life and ensure the two exist in harmony, and to ensure one is not robbing the other of vital life force. I’m glad you’ve reigned yourself in and started to embrace you and your future.

  26. Angela, you’re not nuts. It’s blogging that can be nuts. You can cut yourself off, take a break, slow down or retreat – if it feels right, try it.

  27. Stephanie, your words are so true and your question so poignant – When did we all get so busy? What of the generation that’s known nothing else but keeping up with the online Jones? Scary really. Will people lose the ability to slow down. Will their health suffer? If we don’t stop this mad dash, I hate to think where we’re headed.

  28. Sandra, I don’t think I’m courageous. I’m just moving in new ways that feel more like me. Sounds like you are too, sister.

  29. Victoria, simplifying everything makes so much sense. The frantic pace some of us find ourselves living often has less to do with technology than with all the clutter that comes with it, the purchases, the stuff the piles up, the friendships that don’t serve us, the obligations. Leo’s quote makes sense. What is essential really? I hear chit chat in the grocery store these days of people overwhelmed by Christmas and think – so simplify. Buy less, take a break from gift giving just for the sake of gift giving and let go doing it all. I haven’t even thought about it. I’ll put up a few decorations I already have, host a little dinner party and that’s that. I think I’m buying two gifts. We’re getting a puppy (okay maybe not that simple) this year so no gifts, just puppy love.

  30. Carolina, what a lovely, strong and awake place to live. Can I come over?

  31. Jodi, we all need to fortify our boundaries once in a while. Even having written this post, I feel stronger and more grounded. I hope you do too.

  32. Dear Jane, thank you for the sweet encouragement. May your journey be peaceful.

  33. Hi Katie,

    Wonderful reminder to slow down and “smell the roses.” It’s easy to get caught up in the technology and finding that you whole day is spent in front of a computer. I’m trying to make sure these days that only part of my time is spent this way. I do enjoy blogging, but I also want to be doing things outside as much as I can. Good reminder – thank you!

  34. Cathy, it’s a simple and powerful strategy — set clear limits on the amount of time you engage with technology. You can’t smell the roses from your computer.

  35. Hi Katie,
    I have my moments when I am in a frenzy but for the most part I remind myself to slow down and enjoy the present moment. When I do find myself getting “hurried” I stop and take 3 deep and conscious breaths to center and ground myself.

    This usually does the trick!

  36. Justin, I think we all have those frenzied moments. It’s ensuring they’re not the only kinds of moments we experience that can make all the difference to our peace of mind. Thanks for being here and adding your thoughts.